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| Impossible to Please : How to Deal with Perfectionist Coworkers, Controlling Spouses, and Other Incredibly Critical People
ISBN: 9781608823499
Platform/Publisher: Ebook Central / New Harbinger Publications
Digital rights: Users: Unlimited; Printing: Limited; Download: 7 Days at a Time
Subjects: Psychology;
In this insightful offering, Lavender and Cavaiola (the duo behind 2000's Toxic Co-workers) address the challenges of dealing with those friends, family members, and co-workers whose standards seem impossibly high. After defining the variations and subtypes of "controlling perfectionists," the authors explore possible causes for these difficult personalities, including parental influence, anxiety, environment, and other factors. But rather than simply lambaste or dissect perfectionists, Lavendar and Cavaiola shift their focus to practical skills and strategies for dealing with these personalities, such as learning when to assert oneself and when to take a step back, as well as how to deal with outbursts, clarify one's goals as they relate to the perfectionist, and set "better boundaries." In a nutshell, the authors recommend "the three `C's of collaborate communication,", which are tooled to allow perfectionists a certain level of control while empowering those communicating with them. Specific tips for handling different types of perfectionists are offered, as are suggested exercises that deal with everything from assertive communication to ways to build self-worth. Mental health therapy options are also explored in this thoughtful and useful take on a common characteristic. (Nov. 1) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
Neil J. Lavender, PhD, is professor of psychology at Ocean County College in New Jersey where he also maintains a private practice. He is coauthor of Toxic Coworkers. Neil, who is also an avid blogger, resides in Beachwood, NJ. Alan A. Cavaiola, PhD, is a professor and member of the graduate faculty in the department of psychological counseling at Monmouth University. He is also a licensed psychologist and clinical alcohol and drug counselor. He is also the coauthor of Toxic Coworkers. |
